Self-care. It’s the latest buzzword, the trending and overarching psychological term used to describe everything from extravagant vacations to fancy desserts to luxurious spa packages. We all know self-care matters, but is the word, well, overused? And have we lost the true meaning of what treating yourself actually means?
Let’s talk about self-care beyond the fad and how you can practically integrate these principles into your life.
Practice Prioritizing What Matters
Did you know that the average person spends a staggering 11 hours each day interacting, watching, and reading different media? That’s a lot of time spent behind a screen- and that’s a lot of potential neglect towards other activities.
Time is one of the only assets in life we cannot replenish. All the money, fame, and hard work still can’t stop, slow down, or give us more time. Instead of focusing so much on how to add more into your life, you may need to start by focusing on what you can subtract.
Not sure how to start? Consider taking a weeklong social media or television cleanse. This experiment isn’t to deter you from these parts of your life. It’s simply to make you more aware of how you spend your downtime. Chances are, you have more downtime than you thought you did!
Remember that the more time you can free up in your life, the more empowered you will feel to do what you genuinely enjoy.
Make A Daily Self-Care Goal
Life gets busy, and you’re probably juggling several balls at the same time. While we all know that self-care shouldn’t be a luxury, it may not always be easy to schedule into your daily routine.
That said, the more you can commit to a daily goal, the more habituated the practice will become. Consider writing down a single, obtainable goal each day that you want to achieve. It can be as simple as meditating for five minutes. It can be going to the gym after work.
The trick is to commit to the goal even when you start making excuses as to why you can’t do it! Schedule self-care like it’s any other non-negotiable appointment. You’re worth it, aren’t you?
Embrace Moments of Awe
Have you ever stood breathless on a mountaintop and felt emotionally flooded by the landscape surrounding you? At that moment, you were experiencing awe.
We feel awe when we feel transcended. This transcendence can happen during milestones (like a wedding or birth of a child), but it can also occur in daily moments if we are open to the experience.
For example, you can feel awe watching the nightly sunset. Or spending time in front a great piece of art that really moves you emotionally. You can feel awe listening to our favorite song- the one that sends chills down your spine. Awe exists in all your senses, you just need to awaken them.
The more you can embrace moments of awe, the more enriching your life will be. You will feel more appreciative of what you have. Likewise, you will feel excited and invigorated for what lies ahead.
Learn To Ask For Help
Sometimes, self-care means recognizing that you can’t handle everything on your own. Healthy and happy people know when to reach out for support.
They know to go to the doctor when they feel sick, and they know to accept help from a friend who offers it. Likewise, they are also willing to consider therapy if they need additional guidance or emotional support.
Asking and accepting help means honoring your own limitations. You don’t need to figure out everything by yourself! We were never meant to succeed in this life without others- find people who will support, guide, and motivate you when you need it.
Live Like You Fully Love Yourself
Many people struggle with deep layers of self-doubt, fear, and insecurities that block their full capacities for enjoying life. Unfortunately, these obstacles make self-care a challenge. After all, it’s hard to prioritize yourself when you don’t feel like you’re worthy or deserving.
Practice combating this negative mindset by embracing an idea that you can totally and fully love yourself. Yes, it may seem corny. However, you might be surprised at how differently you choose to live if you decide to adopt this mentality.
Ask yourself, What would I be doing right now if I fully loved myself? How would I spend my time after work? How would I be talking to my significant other? What kinds of clothes would I be wearing? What types of foods would I be eating? Where would I go on my weekends?
Embracing Self-Care Without All The Cliches
Despite the popular misconceptions, self-care isn’t just about the activities you do. It’s about the mindset you have. It’s about how you choose to embrace yourself and the world around you. When you can love, trust, and enjoy yourself, the way you live naturally falls into place.
Struggling to figure out how to harness that self-love? You’re not alone, and therapy can help you figure out your next steps. Contact me today to get started!